As most everyone around us knows Bruce and I were recently married. Again! I get such a giggle out of telling people the abridged version of our story. People find it so unusual that I just love to see their faces. And I love that there are people on the outer ring of our lives that have no idea!

I feel very fortunate to have Bruce in my life. He is the one and only man that has ever known all of me and loved all of me unconditionally.  I also feel that since we have put our relationship through the ringer, we have a pretty good grasp on what it takes to make a relationship successful. Not bearable…successful.

I think that my own biggest lesson that I have learned in our relationship is that if I want to have a good husband I have to be a good wife. It’s an extension of the golden rule really. Do unto others. If you want to be respected as an individual within your relationship give your spouse that respect. One of my favorite quotes about marriage comes from Barnett R. Brickner: “Success in marriage does not come merely through finding the right mate, but through being the right mate.” Be the kind of person that you want your spouse to be and you will always be happy, even if there are bumps. And there are going to be bumps.

My other favorite quote on relationships is from Rita Rudner: “I love being married.  It’s so great to find that one special person you want to annoy for the rest of your life.”

We all have things we do that are going to get under other peoples skin. Especially that person that swore to spend all eternity with you! The important part of those little idiosyncrasies is to not let them get in the way of how you view your partner. If you constantly nag the person that you spend most of your time with then they are going to be less inclined to spend time with you!

One of my favorite blogs is Marc and Angel Hack Life (http://www.marcandangel.com/). If you have a chance give them a few moments of your time. I promise you will enjoy their blog site and you will be inspired to think deeper as I always am when I give them a few moments of my time.  One of their posts lists 12 Relationship Truths We Often Forget. A few of them listed are: Most of the time you get what you put in: you are in full control of your own happiness; and you can’t change people; they can only change themselves. Marc and Angel are not sharing information we don’t already know but they are certainly doing a good job of reminding us what we may be forgetting.

Being in a relationship takes work; it doesn’t just happen because you live in the same house and happen to have created a couple of children. It takes attention to detail and seeing past your own immediate wants and a fair amount of compromise. And most importantly you shouldn’t just be reminding your life partner that you love and cherish them on Valentine’s Day! =]

HAPPY VALENTINE’S DAY